Pasties & Petticoats is all about YOU – my lovely readers!

I know that you guys love real weddings, it’s such an awesome way to help visualise details and get inspiration, and my absolute FAVOURITE real weddings to feature are YOUR weddings.


There’s something so special about following a wedding planning journey with you through the facebook group and here on the blog, to then see how your day came together. It’s not unheard of for me to even shed a little tear!


So I was thrilled when the lovely Niomi sent over her and Simon’s wedding story – a beautiful day at the stunning Polhawn Fort, captured by Jodie Hardwick. Take a peek…


(oh, and as always, full list of suppliers with links at the bottom of the post!).




The proposal

Simon proposed on the beach at Whitsand Bay (Tregonhawke). He wrote in the sand whilst I was taking photos of the sunset and called me over and the writing was there and he was down on one knee with the ring and a bottle of prosecco.

(Minor detail…he actually called me out of the sea to look at the male appendage he said that he’d drawn in the sand…!!!)


Where it all happened

I got ready at Polhawn fort and Simon stayed in the Halfway House at Cawsand the night before our wedding.

We chose Polhawn Fort as most of our happiest memories have been spent at Whitsand bay. You could see exactly where Simon proposed from the fort and it overlooks an entire area which is beautiful and where we spend a lot of time.

We both agreed that we wanted to have a church wedding so the service was at Maryfield Church just outside of Torpoint. We went to all the churches in the area but Maryfield just felt so comfortable to us both and everyone there was really welcoming.  Plus it’s incredibly beautiful.



What they wore


I wore a Ronald Joyce dress which I got from Prudence Gowns in Exeter. It was totally different to what I thought I’d wear and what anyone else thought id choose. It was big and sparkly but from the moment I put it on, I felt amazing and couldn’t help from swishing around. I also wore my dream shoes, a pair of Valentino Rockstuds – completely unbridal but I loved every inch of them and the completed my outfit.


Simon’s outfit is far more interesting…. Simon had originally planned to wear a tweed suit which we had made for him with blue chino shorts (Simon wears shorts all year round). In the week before the wedding, I made the mistake of telling Simon that I wasn’t sure his outfit really worked and he changed his mind on it altogether! His final outfit was the original blue chino shorts, a flowery shirt (white) that we’d gotten from House of Fraser, a wooden bow tie that was a combination of blue and plum (and tied everything together colour wise), a plum leather belt and some deck shoes from Ralph Lauren. The jacket was a last minute purchase from Zara but was perfect, a velvet blue nautical number!


The bridesmaids wore a plum dress with rose gold sequins in the top, from true bride and purchased from Te Amo in Plympton .


Our page boy and father of the bride wore a kilt in our heritage ‘sinclair’ colours and the best man wore his RAF uniform – in other words, all slightly different but gelled together perfectly and I loved there was a reason behind what all the men were wearing.


My make up was done by a close friend and my hair by Rosie Finnigan who is a local hairdresser and amazing.



The theme


We didn’t have a full theme as such. I loved anything autumnal and the rich plum colours, and all the boys were in blue.


I wanted the fort to be decorated with flowers and candles so we had jo malone candles on all the window sills, surrounded by pine cones. Tall candelabras with candles and lots of very beautiful flowers and foliage on all the tables. The top tables was fronted by lots of jam jars that were filled with a combination of flowers, tea  lights and church candles. On the tables, we had slate place mats which we got from a reclamation yard in Totnes.


The name cards were a Polaroid photo of each person and a great talking point of a fun memory for anyone who didn’t know someone on the table – everyone loved it and we had great fun looking through and selecting everyone’s individual photo!


Overall the venue looked very rustic.



The flowers


Hannah Burnett was our florist and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her to anyone at all – she’s wonderful. I didn’t want to have the fashionable bouquet but something that trailed and had lots of foliage. Hannah ‘got this’ straight away and it’s like she pulled the picture right out of my head.


She made my bouquet, our button holes and the bridesmaids bouquets – and a flower headband for the younger bridesmaids.


We went for plum flowers with some bright pinks and reds to help lift the colour. She did the candelabras and decorated them to match my bouquet. When we bought the kilts in Scotland we got some spare material and Hannah used this to finish the button holes and it was also wrapped around my bouquet and the girls flowers.




The cake


I am a coeliac so we decided straight away not to have cake, but to have cheese instead. We went to Country Cheeses in Tavistock and chose exactly what we wanted and they offered great advice on what else to get and how much we’d need. The brie was to die for!


Hannah decorated the cake with some flowers on the morning of the wedding and we used some log slices as a cake stand.


I also got a cake topper from Sophia Victoria Joy, which was the word ‘always’ in natural wood, as a subtle Harry Potter reference!



What they ate and drank

We booked Richard McGeown from Apt Catering as our caterer and couldn’t be happier with our decision.
We had warm winter pimms as our welcome drinks whilst canapes were served (scallops, mini burgers, stuffed jackets and goats cheese tarts).
For our wedding breakfast we had braised beef with duck fat roasted new potatoes and green beans and mustard (with a vegetable braise for anyone who didn’t eat meat). Our desert was Eton mess but seasonable fruit such as blackberries in place of strawberries.
In the evening our cheese cake was set out as a cheese board with crackers, chutneys and homemade pate and we had platters of sausage and bacon baps coming around.
We wanted hearty and tasty comfort food that people would enjoy and was suited to the time of year.
On each of the tables we had a ‘Pimp your own Prosecco’ with a couple of bottles each, peach purée and elderflower cordial. The wedding favours were a small bottle of sloe gin for a sloe mo cocktail or a short. We also included a bottle of beer for each of the men, which we arranged through a small brewery in Totnes. We designed the bottle and label and had these on the tables.

Capturing the day

We had Jodie Hardwick as our photographer. She’s shot quite a few of my friends weddings so I knew she was really unobtrusive and took natural shots of everyone which is exactly what we were looking for. She is super friendly and got on well with everyone.

The party!

We had a wedding singer called Andy Brown. We love the music he sings and he has a package where he can sing two sets and DJ music in between. This worked perfectly from us, he was really easy to communicate with and the plans were easy to make. He has a great voice and got everyone up on the dance floor!


The honeymoon

We went to Thailand in December for three days in Bangkok and then to Krabi for 7 nights. This was booked as a surprise for us by my dad, and we found out both where and when we were going during his speech.

Favourite part of the day

Seeing all of our plans come together. We had a few photos outside of Anthony House and then travelled back alone and just had a minute to take it all in. The whole day was perfect and I loved seeing everyone enjoying themselves.

Advice to others

Don’t stress! And don’t forget to make your table plan before the wedding…!
One of the main elements of our planning was to make sure everyone else had a great time. It was the most important thing to us and we enjoyed the day more when we saw that happen.

Anything else? 

We used the Pasties & Petticoats Facebook group loads for advice on suppliers and general information. It was definitely the easiest group I found to ask questions and get local advice. Everyone was really friendly and there was no arguing!!

Fabulous Suppliers

Polhawn Fort

Jodie Hardwick

Prudence Gowns

Hannah Burnett

Cheese Cake
Country Cheeses

Apt Catering

Polhawn Fort

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