Once the wedding planning begins, so inevitably comes an onslaught of (let’s face it, not always welcome!) advice.
If you’re anything like me you’re able to nod along politely to everyone’s well-intentioned input, take the bits that you think will help and relegate the dross to the ‘ignore’ file in your brain.
But when it comes to wedding wisdom who better to share their thoughts than couples who have been there, done it and got the ‘just married’ t-shirt?! (I always feel weird using the term real brides, like the alternative is to use fake brides!).
We’ve featured SO many real weddings over the years here on Pasties & Petticoats, I figured it would be helpful to bring together some of the advice our lovely brides and grooms have shared.
So, this series of posts is all about sharing the love and the wisdom without the waffle or the out-dated “in my day” views from beloved Aunty Ethel.
The day will fly by, so relax and enjoy absolutely every second it it!
From Laura and Mark
I couldn’t agree more – I remember feeling so sad as we danced to the last song at our wedding party, in fact I may even have shed a champagne-fuelled tear or three as we said goodbye to guests at the end of the night. I just remember feeling so sad that that was it – the day was over! Eighteen months of planning, a load of hard work and a bucket load of dosh done and dusted just like that!
I remember people telling me to try to take a few moments throughout the day just stop and take it all in, and I meant to, really I did. But… when you’re swept up in the moment it’s so hard to remember to do this. So, stupid though it may sound, I’d ask a bridesmaid or friend to pop a reminder in their phone and give you a nudge to remind you to do this on the day.
It really is great advice though – this is YOUR day. The one you’ve worked so hard to bring to life from a vision in your head. It’s a celebration of you as a couple, surrounded by your loved ones. Absolutely relax and enjoy!
Take time to be together quietly on the day.
From Ash and Mark
This is another one I remember being told – and another one I didn’t take heed of and wished we had!
In fact, I’d go so far as to say that The Husband and I spent most of our wedding day apart! The times when we were together were seriously limited – the vows were a blur, I felt so uncomfortable during couples portraits it was just cringe, welcome drinks were a whole lotta hugs and congratulations from guests…BUT, I do remember LOVING our first dance and doing ‘the robot’ to 99 Red Balloons (don’t ask!).
At the time it didn’t seem to matter, but looking back now I do wish we’d taken a little bit of time to just take it all in together.
Don’t faff about too long taking posed photos, use all the time to be with your guests.
From James and Tamsin
For me, having beautiful photos of the two of you together on your wedding day is really important, and I’d absolutely move heaven and earth to make sure you grab some time with your photographer to nab those shots. BUT, don’t underestimate how long it takes organising group shots. Avoid having a list of never-ending combinations for your formals and instead keep it to the few most important ones.
Don’t get me wrong – I think it’s nice to have a few formals group pics, they’re the ones that the parents and grannies often end up putting in pride of place on the mantelpiece. But if you work on the theory of 5-10 mins per group shot (by the time you round up the people who have disappeared to the bar or the loo, sort out where everyone is standing and get everyone looking the right way at the same time) – you can see how you could quite quickly spend a good hour or so just on this part of the day. Bleh!
Good advice, huh?
Any more to add? Just pop it in the comments below, or go join the conversation on the brides facebook chat group <3